Nights like Tonight

Nights like tonight … I am feeling down while at home while she is on holidays with her boyfriend … My other is at home with her husband. It is just me and the TV and it sucks.

Nights like tonight … I have a desire to be spanked, bruised and denied. She is with her boyfriend on holidays. My other is helping her husband. It’s me and the TV and it sucks.

Nights like tonight … I want to talk to her, wrap my arms around her, but she is away from me. So it is just the TV and me and it sucks.

So why am I poly? When there are nights like these, I really question why. It has been a tough couple of weeks with work and stress. Dates seem to be further apart … She gets the attention and I get the solitude. Life doesn’t feel particularly fair right at this moment. In moments like these, being poly sucks.

Some might call this poly drama, it is not. This is poly. Poly doesn’t mean your calendar is always full of exciting times & dates. Poly sometimes means sitting alone at home and wishing you could be on a date or holiday rather than your partner.

Poly isn’t always getting what you need. Sometimes you go without what you need. Sometimes you sit at home waiting for the energy to wane so you can go to bed to sleep off the depression and it does suck.

But, occasionally poly can be dirty messaging with a good looking woman. Sometimes poly is looking around and being grateful for all of the people who are in your life because they make your life richer and fuller.

As with monogamy there are going to be awesome days and just like monogamy life will not always be perfect. The stars do not always align and there will be nights like tonight.

Drew

Jealousy

… jealousy comes and goes, depending on how good I feel about myself. When I’m not taking care of getting what I want, it’s easy to get jealous and think that someone else is getting what I am not. I need to remember that it’s my job to get my needs met. I feel the jealousy, but I’m not willing to act on it so it mostly goes away.

A quote from The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt
Drew

TMI Tuesday

1. What’s the future of dating?

I can see it mostly moving to online interactions at the start of a relationship before spreading to a in-person interaction.

2. Do you usually wake up with an erection?

This is usually the case, caged in a chastity device.

3. What is your most bizarre talent?

Turning a simple explanation into a most convoluted explanation possible.

4. Do you prefer the people in your life to be simple or complex?

Simple people make for easier understanding, and when I make the simple complex, complex will become even more complex. Ughh!

5. Are you simple or complex?

I’m very much a complex person, at least in my eyes.

Bonus: Tell us a riddle.

Where can you find the Buccaneers? On your Buccanhead!


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your web space (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to TMITuesdayBlog from your website!

Drew

TMI Tuesday

1. Do you like tattoos? Do you have any tattoos?

I don’t mine tattoos when they are tasteful and have significant meaning for a person. What I don’t like are tattoos for the sake of having them or getting them when you are drunk.

I don’t have any tattoos and I’m not sure I would get any for the foreseeable future.

2. How did you pick your online profile name?

My username has come from my flexible sexuality. Some days I can be an asexual human, others I can be a sexual human. It fits in with both depending on my feelings for the day.

3. What’s one saying you try to live by?

I don’t really have a specific saying to live by, but I like to think that I can make it through one day at a time.

4. What was the last bad meal you ate? Why was it so awful?

I personally haven’t had a bad meal, however my wife had a bad meal at one stage. We had steak, and the roast potato came out was rotten, she requested a new one, which was also rotten. So to counter bad luck, she requested chips to make up for it, but by then the steak was cold and not worth the meal any more.

5. When was your last bad sexual encounter? Why was it so awful?

I think my last encounter that turned sour was the time where I was having a foursome with my wife and another couple, and everyone else had orgasmed, and no matter what happened mine just wouldn’t come (no pun intended).

Bonus: Tell us something random.

Kopi Luwak is one of the most expensive coffees in the world, selling for between US$100 and $600 per pound in 2010. The specialty Vietnamese weasel coffee, which is made by collecting coffee beans eaten by wild civets, is sold at US$3,000 per kilogram.


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your web space (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to TMITuesdayBlog from your website!

Drew

TMI Tuesday

1. If you had three wishes that would come true, what would they be?

1) Health and prosperity 2) A society not driven by greed and accepting of all 3) Partner/s understanding what we all want from life

2. What are your favorite things to spend money on?

Food, food and more food, and maybe geocaching supplies

3. If you could write a song about your life, what type of music would you use?

Right now, probably Finnish Folk Metal in the style of Ensiferum. Alternatively, maybe some Punk Rock or Alternative

4. If you could choose your partner again, would you choose the same person?

Possibly choose multiple people in a poly relationship, but would certainly choose my wife again although do things differently

5. When it comes to discussing your sex life, who do you confide in more than anyone else?

This sounds weird, but the internet even though it is probably more far-fetched than what is the norm.

Bonus: What’s your definition of cheating? Is there really such a thing?

Having a romantic/sexual relationship with someone other than those you are already involved with, without acknowledging that relationship with your existing partners.


How to play TMI Tuesday: Copy the above TMI Tuesday questions to your web space (i.e., a blog). Answer the questions there, then leave a comment below, on this blog post, so we’ll all know where to read your responses. Please don’t forget to link to TMITuesdayBlog from your website!

Drew